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Certain rules that guided married life back in the day may really not be enough to do so these days
What if marriage as we know it is no longer suitable for this age we live in? What if, at this stage of human evolution, an upgrade is needed in our thought processes concerning marriage and the relationship norms that we live by? Consider mobile applications and other electronic gadgets. Though inanimate, these things get an upgrade and update, every now and then. Changes and modifications are created that fix [or at least, try to fix] faulty aspects of the system, make it run more effectively and efficiently and take user experience to a different, higher level.
For us humans, it may be time for an upgrade on the way we view relationships and do marriages.
This is something Liza Shaw, American marriage and family therapist, believes in. According to her; âpeople lived a whole lot shorter when marriage was first invented. Lifelong marriage was created as a lifelong proposition of 10-30 years at most.â
To carry on the theories of marriage and the beliefs of matrimony from that different time in this generation may be so difficult, and that maybe what explains the difficulty people face when it comes to marrying and staying married to each other for long.
According to Shaw, certain rules that guided married life back in the day may really not be enough to do so these days. To continue running marriages on these âoutdatedâ principles may continue to cost people unhappiness, sadness, and disappointment at not being able to hit the âidealâ of being together forever.
Shaw says that to attain that goal in these present days, some rules may need to be swept aside and some revised. Marriage rules such as âpeople who love each other shouldnât hurt each otherâ are no longer ideal, she says.
âA happy marriage requires compromise,â and ânever go to bed angryâ are other rules that may need to be dropped if people are to find the happiness that lasts for long.
Watch Liza Shaw delve deeper into the subject in the below:
Source:Â pulse.com.gh